Introducing your partner to a vibrator - SC Sex Products

The popular opinion of sex toys is that they are not for those in relationships. They are assumed to be the replacement for a partner, a stand in for those who spend nights alone or don’t have access to regular sex. This is certainly not the case. The prejudice comes from both sides of the gender coin to, it’s not gender specific.

Therefore when it comes to introducing your partner to your vibrators and other sex toys, it can be quite a daunting task.

Our advice is to take things slowly and gently. Something to keep in mind at all times relating to sex toys! First, discuss their opinions on sex toys while you're both outside the bedroom. That way they won’t feel any pressure to give an immediate opinion on their feelings towards them. Being relaxed about the discussion is very important. The more accepting you are of their opinions and thoughts, the more likely they will be to be welcoming to these companions in your life.

As always, open and honest communication is an essential part of any healthy and happy relationship.

Assuming a positive response from your partner, you can start talking more in detail about your sex toys collection. Explain that they are not a replacement for them, simply an addition or an aid to healthy and enjoyable sexual stimulation. This doesn't need to mean just using them alone either, make it clear that you would like to incorporate sex toys use into your couples playtime too.

Appeal to the voyeur in them with a cheeky suggestion that they 'watch you at it', that is to say, enjoying a sex toy. This can be a fun, intimate and exciting aspect of foreplay that they may not have previously considered. If you have a remote control sex toy, offer them the control of it. Or in the case of vibrators, dildos and male masturbators, you can offer them the chance to use it on you, instead of retaining the control yourself. This makes them a part of the action.

It is worth bearing in mind that it is not generally accepted etiquette to use sex toys in front of or with your partner that were a part of a previous sexual relationship.
Even if they aren't aware of it, you never know how this information might come to light and it could make your partner feel less than content about using those particular sex toys with you.

Make sure your partner knows that sex toys aren't just for your gender or use, there are plenty of sex toys that they will enjoy too, if they are so inclined. This is true whether they are a man or woman, and regardless of your sexual orientation. This has the dual effect of showing your own accepting attitude towards sex toys and in particular, that you don't mind them using sex toys either, whether on their own or with you during couples time.

Why not shop for sex toys together at Simply Pleasure? This is an enjoyable, intimate activity that could even double as foreplay. You'll get to find out more about their interests, what turns them on and discover new ways to reach the heights of sexual stimulation, for a completely satisfying sex life.